It’s becoming more common that moms and dads currently raising children come face to face with an additional situation, how to best care for their aging parents. There are several options at your disposal. Before making a final decision, weigh the benefits of each against the immediate needs of your parents. Deciding on the best place for your parents golden years is a huge decision. Here are some ideas to check on before you decide.
A Nursing Home
Throughout your life and until recently, your parents were probably the ones who took care of you. They were there in your early days molding you into the independent and healthy adult you are now. However, over the last few years their health might have started deteriorating and you now worry constantly about their well-being.
Unlike a decade ago where nursing homes got their poor reputation because of overcrowding and subpar conditions, today they can offer a safe place for adults ill-equipped to handle life independently. Most facilities have a staff comprising skilled doctors and nurses. The environment is clean and has the resources to provide excellent around-the-clock care.
An Assisted Living Facility
Aging parents who do not require around-the-clock care can benefit immensely from an assisted living center. There they receive the extra help they need and an extra set of eyes monitoring their daily basic needs. The added benefit of assisted living technology makes it easy for your parents to adjust. They can enjoy life among their peers and receive custodial care. Made to resemble the look of an apartment versus an institution, the environment is much more relaxed. The staff can monitor their health through wearables that alert them in the event their vital signs take a turn for the worse. They have various activities, can choose meals in a cafeteria setting, and enjoy an abundance of fresh air.
Living With You
You made a verbal commitment to your parents that you would never put them in a nursing home. So, you want to do everything possible to keep that promise. Before moving them into your home, it’s important to have a serious discussion with all members of the household.
If your parents only need minor help, moving them into your home can offer positive results for you and your loved ones. Grandparents can offer words of wisdom to young teens and you and your spouse. However, if they require daily care, you may end up overwhelmed. Doctor’s appointments, monitoring medications and bathing will consume most of your free time. Initially, you will be eager to help. However, after a few months of little or no downtime, it can take a toll on your health and relationship. You and your family need time together too. You want to tend to your garden, host parties and go on vacations.
Remaining on Their Own
Some parents want to remain in their home. It’s a place that they know and have many wonderful memories of their younger days. It provides a wealth of comfort. If your parents are simply old and their minds are sharp, remaining in their home is beneficial to their well-being. They probably aren’t as mobile as they were once, but that’s something that you can address easily. Once you make sure their home is safe by looking for trip-and-fall hazards, installing proper lighting and safety grab bars, you’ll feel a lot better about this option.
Hiring an outside caregiver will provide help with things like meal preparation, bathing, medications, as well as weekly errands and doctor’s appointments. If they live nearby, you can check in on them a few nights after work to see how they are doing and invite them to dinner on the weekends. They will still have their independence and you’ll know they are receiving the care they require.
Your parents provided unconditional love and a safety net since the day you were born. It’s only natural to want to return the favor now that they need care. Before committing to any facility, or opting to bring them into your home, make certain that the place you decide on is the best fit for them and your family.