Do you have a friend or someone you know who is in a bad love relationship? You know, that person who constantly calls you and wants to talk smack about their husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend? I have no idea why these people stay in a situation like that. Whenever I have had relationship problems, I have either talked to my spouse or boyfriend, whichever it was at the moment, or found a way to move out and move on. I mean, after all, that other person in your relationship is the only one who can fix it with you. If you talk to your significant other, and the problem can’t be fixed, it is time to walk away. Life is way too short to live it in an unhappy relationship that neither of you wants to work on in order to make it better.
I have had my fair share of friends who have wanted to tell me all about their woes, about how he doesn’t do this, or she does that. And I have to tell them I am not a marriage counselor, I can’t help them. What I have found over the years, that this is what happens, every time: you do get pulled into that sort of conversation. You agree with one thing or another that the person may say about their spouse. When they get back together with the other person or make up, they take it out on you because you encouraged them to break up or whatever it was you said to them that was negative about the person they are in the relationship with. Best advice I can give, is, stay out of it. If they insist on reeling you in to their conversation, tell them to get marriage counseling or get other professional help. If they still insist, tell them that you love them, but you can not be a part of this conversation. Tell them the only person they need to talk to is their spouse. You will be a much happier person for it.